This is personal – I want ABUNDANCE

Hey, after all, I am a coach – I am all about helping people change. It’s what I do and I’m good at it. I’ve found it’s different when it’s about me. Here’s the story. I work a lot with emotional intelligence. I know all about triggers and how to spot them. I know about self management and how to point people to good practices – deep breathing when you notice tension building or the surge of emotions. Why is it so hard to do in my sandbox! I guess it’s the blessing/curse of being human. It is why I work with a coach – diligently. When it’s personal, it gets harder.

My business is changing. I’ve probably mentioned that before. Here’s the deal. I’ve wanted it to change. I’ve hungered to do more of what I want and less of other’s people’s work (being a subcontractor). I want to work with companies with humane leaders – I’ve worked for some jerks and don’t want to need income so badly that I fall back into having to do that.

I want two things. FIrst is to source abundance and the second it to manage the voices of desperation in my head. Those are the late-at-night, shadow-in-the-corner voices of doom. Those two wants are tied tightly together. If I source abundance…that means finding the positive view, no matter what, then my attention is aimed at what’s possible and the voice of doom doesn’t get air time. When I expect the very best to show up, then it does. Here’s the deal. When I source what is possible, I have to let go of know what or planning what mights show up. I have to live with ambiguity…no knowing. And if I let the default voice of doom have a say, it kills abundance.

WOW that’s a little harsh. The voices of doom KILL the energy of abundance. But isn’t it true? It is for me – because the energy of “what if it doesn’t work” would have me hedge my bets. You know the hedge –a little abundance but tempered with “practical, down to earth” contingency planning. It sounds reasonable but I am here to take a stand that “practical, down to earth” will keep me from experiencing all that is possible. Jim Collins in the beginning of Good to Great says it well. “Good is the enemy of great.” Scarcity is the enemy of abundance. I am ready to take a stand for not knowing and having faith. What a life that will be!

Reflection on a Goal Accomplished

I completed a Big Hairy Hairy Goal this week (thanks, Jim Collins, for the term BHAG!)  I’ve been a coach fImageor 11 years and over 4000 coaching hours ago.  Somewhere about month 6 of my coaching career, I decided I wanted to be a MASTER Coach.  I had some mentors who were just amazing and I wanted to grow up to be like them!  I wanted it.  Let me be clear, I REALLY wanted it.  Here’s the funny part, I didn’t tell anyone, it just seemed to big.  That way, if I didn’t make it, no one were actually know I had failed.  However, I counted hours with a thoroughness that didn’t show up in the rest of my life and FAILURE become an important element of the story….fast forward to the present.

I gathered my education hours, contacted almost every client I ever coached, got letters of recommendations and documented over 3000 coaching hours.  I submitted the package and waited.  Finally, after 23 months, 3 weeks and 1 day in the examination process (that would include waiting in line for exam date, 1 failed recorded session and 1 failed live session, 1 seriously angry, self-justified, wronged me followed by soul searching, mentoring, lots of practice more waiting in line for an exam date, I finally experienced success – recorded and live session passed) I was awarded the Master Certified Coach credential from the International Coach Federation.

What I find amazing is how the process redesigned me.  The goal was so important I was willing to toss  my image of me as a coach, admit defeat and rebuild myself in a new image.  I learned a bunch about goals.  If a big goal is worth it –

  • Ego must take a back seat – you may find that you are not up to the task – YET
  • You’ll likely venture into unknown territory – it takes courage
  • Learning is more important than looking good

It was humbling – still is.  I realized that being a master coach is not something I achieved.  It is something I aspire to become…every day.  I learned and I learned.  And I am eternally grateful to all those who help me along the way.