If you want your students to understand and learn from their mistakes, ask the type of question that encourages learning. The words you choose can make all the difference. Here are some good ones to know –
The word “what” opens up the conversation for curiosity and discovery, as in “What’s the value?” Or “What are your options?” It invites a person to discover answers on his own.
“How” asks by what means will something get done? There is not a lot of discovery in “how” – it’s about fixing, solving or doing. A good rule of thumb is to ask “what”, allow time for discovery and then ask “how.”
“Why” is a cautionary word. It looks to the past (“Why did you try that?” or “Why did that happen?”) and gathers historical data. It’s cautionary because it gathers facts but in an accusatory way. “Why” has that effect in more than one language! The other caution is that the question “why” seems to be very popular. It will pay you to be aware of how often you use it!
One other group of questioning words to be aware of would be the “closed questions” words like “did, do, does, would, should and could.” You can almost here the negative energy when you read the list. These words only offer two choices – yes or no. No discovery. No creativity.
You are in the business of asking questions. It’s important to recognize that with the single word, you can tailor a helpful question of personal discovery or a judgmental question full of blame. Your player gets to move forward or get stuck in the past – that’s the choice. It’s the art of the question
Where do you begin? First, listen to the questions you ask. Then ask with intention. How you ask a question is as important the content. Give it a shot.